Transitions come in many shapes —
planned and unplanned, celebrated and grieved
Some transitions are visible milestones — a new job, a marriage, a move. Others are quieter: the moment a relationship changes its texture, or when a version of yourself you counted on starts to feel like a costume. Both deserve attention.
You don't have to have it figured out to start talking about it.
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New jobs, layoffs, promotions, leaving a field you've built a life in, or the existential weight of "what do I actually want to do." When work has shaped your identity, changing it changes you.
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Getting married or partnered, divorcing, a friendship that's grown apart, the slow renegotiation of family roles. Relationships are living things — and so are the losses when they change.
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Uprooting a life — even by choice — can surface grief you didn't expect. Losing a neighborhood, a social world, a version of yourself that only existed in one place.
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Parenthood reorganizes nearly everything: sleep, partnership, identity, time. Joy and loss coexist. The "before" self doesn't disappear — it needs to be integrated, not abandoned.
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Bereavement, but also the grief that doesn't have a name: losing a future you planned for, a body that worked differently, a sense of safety after something hard.
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The mid-30s through mid-50s often bring a reckoning with earlier choices — what was decided by default, what still fits, and who you want to be now that you know more about yourself.
How I Work
Grounded, collaborative, and honest about the process
Therapy for periods of transitions isn't about cheerleading you through a to-do list. It's slower and more useful than that. We look at what's actually happening— the ambivalence, the grief, the old stories getting activated — and we work with it rather than around it. My approach draws on attachment theory, CBT, and mindfulness-based methods, but I care less about the label than about what actually helps you. Some sessions are heavy; some are surprisingly light. Both count.
I'll ask good questions, offer frameworks when they're useful, and tell you when I think something deserves more attention. You don't have to come in with clarity — that's part of what we build together.
Holding ambivalence
Real life rarely hands you a clear choice between good and bad. We practice sitting with "I want this and I'm terrified of it" at the same time.
Making meaning, not just moving on
Transitions ask something of you at the level of story — what this chapter means, what the next one could hold. We work at that level, not just the surface.
Old patterns in new situations
Our coping strategies don't always update with us. We look at what you learned early and whether it's still serving you now.
Values as a compass
When everything is uncertain, values give you something to navigate by. We'll clarify what actually matters to you — not what should matter.
Signs this work might be worth exploring
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You're in the middle of a major change and feel more overwhelmed than excited — even when you chose this.
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A relationship, a job, an era of your life — and you're not sure who you are on the other side of it.
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You know something needs to change but can't seem to move forward.
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You're grieving something that doesn't fit neatly into what grief is "supposed" to look like.
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You feel disconnected from the life you built — and aren't sure whether to rebuild it or build something else entirely.
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You're managing fine on the outside but running on empty on the inside, and you'd like that ratio to shift.
You don't have to arrive with all the answers
I offer a free 15-minute phone consultation so we can get a sense of whether working together feels like a good fit. No pressure, no obligation.